Monday, 22 February 2010

Guest Post: Cool Tips - Avoid Conflict!

Taken from Friday Nasiha - (subscribe and get a weekly Friday Nasiha email in your inbox!)

"Even petty disputes between individuals can be costly. The time, money, and effort spent in the conflict itself, not to mention the mental and emotional cost that's involved mobilizing for the conflict and getting over it, can be heavy indeed.

The least costly way to deal with conflict is to avoid it. Many conflicts are simply not worth having, and with a bit of forethought and prevention, they can be stopped before major damage is done. Abraham Lincoln wrote, "Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbours to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser in fees, expenses, and waste of time."

Take the following steps in order to prevent conflict before it starts:

Know who you're dealing with: One of the characteristics of Japanese businesspeople is to spend a great deal of time checking out people or firms before embarking on business ventures with them. They intend to do business for a long time and want to make sure mistakes are avoided at the outset. Westerners often find the practice tedious and unnecessarily time-consuming. But it does have its merits.

Get it in writing: Spell out as many eventual sources of contention as you can anticipate. An old proverb advises: "Good fences make good neighbours."

Avoid impossible situations: Don't think you are Superman or Wonder Woman. Unless you are expert at turnaround situations, if really good people have failed, you probably will, too.

Check out great deals going in: If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is too good to be true. Investigate. Ask for references. Ask hard questions. It's better to risk offending someone than having an economic loss or embarrassment later on.
These tactics can save you a great deal of time and effort in conflict resolutions involving any relationship".

Compiled From:"Time Tactics of Very Successful People" - B. Eugene Griessman, p. 145-146.

Tuesday, 16 February 2010

What's Your Latest Read?

...Lets get interactive Global Familia :)

So tell me, what is your current read? What are you reading at the moment? Something for work or your studies? Are you reading for pleasure and leisure? Hey, do YOU even like reading?
Well, I love reading! 'Reading is to the mind, what exercise is to the body!' (and I forgot who quoted that! Let me know if you know).

I have a few fantastic titles on my list...I will be having a library day this week, hopefully, and will get these titles, and once I'm done I will give you all a book review :)
So Inspire me and all the readers of this blog and let us know what you are reading, why you are reading it, what you have learnt, how has it inspired you to further your existence in this world and why should we all read it....lets have a season of book reviews here! :)

And if you would like to write a book review and have it popped on the turBo flow blog, then I will guest post you with your book review. Email it to (yes, I'm a die hard 2pac fan!)

Happy reading and look forward to your reviews and comments! :)

Monday, 1 February 2010

...I'm Left On The Shelf! No One Wants Me!'re single, looking for a life partner - tried all the online marriage sites, family, friends, aunties...but you just can't seem to find 'The One'!
"What's wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone want to marry me? I know I'm not good enough - I'm just left on the shelf!!!"
And this is followed by depression, comfort eating, sleeping all hours, hating, shouting, mood swings - and - wait for it - the ultimate one - what's the purpose of my life?! (well, to get that one answered, just scroll down and read the post on 'What's my Purpose!) - But for now - check out the video below (thank you Facebook friend for posting it!) and at the end - smile! (plus its Sunnah to smile).
OK, OK - since you are here and since this may apply to you and since all i want to say really is; 'get over it!' - I'll be nice - after all YOU are my global familia and this is a touchy subject! So, firstly - get over it! and secondly - its not all that bad - really - you just have to focus, make the right moves, talk to the right people and get practical and productive. And now you say; "well, doh, it hasn't worked!" - OK, yeah i hear you - But there's more to our lives than just being depressed - so if you need help - seek it (depression is a bad thing!) and read the post on 'What's my Purpose' - follow the formulae (do share the formulae with everyone - but remember its copyright - turBo came up with that one!) and make it happen!
If it's meant to be - it will be - and if you're still not happy then watch the video again and again!
We have one life to live - lets not waste it worrying and being depressed and lets make it happen! :)